-Ok to get started my mom is very sick with gastroparesis, its a disease that basically stops all the movement in her stomach and intestines. So she cant eat but basically 1 meal on a good day. She throws up several times a day regardless of if she had eaten or drank anything that day. So don't blame her, the fact that she can even wake up and get out of bed is incredible, before she got sick she was the hardest working single mom ever. She still works her *** off everyday, but she just doesn't have the energy to deal with me and my school. As for my step dad he is the biggest excuse for a husband ever, he doesn't beat my mom or me which I am thankful for and I know he could be much worse but the fact that my mom is sick and I am failing school he should step up and be a man. His average day is waking up working, coming home and not even talking to any of us. Also he has the WORST son ever, he has admitted to trying to break him and my mom up, I have never hated anyone in my life but him. This isn't the classic I hate my brother rant, my step brother has by himself ruined my families life. So my step father decides that its best to send him to his dead wives mother, by the way he is adopted. He sees him on the weekends, what a pathetic father. I don't even worry about he treats me, but he doesn't even acknowledge my mom or sister, and when he does it is usually to fight. I wont go into detail but take my word for it he is a disrespectful, sick in the head ASSHOLE that causes so much stress in my mom and sisters life. Same with his son. I seriously cannot even describe how bad they have ruined my families life, my mom, me, and my sister that it.
Now onto the title, Im going to be COMPLETELY honest with you because if I am not 100% truthful what is the point in asking for help if you not willing to admit your mistakes that stress you out.
As you know my mom is sick, so we signed up for FLVS ( Florida Virtual School) 2 summers ago. It went well for about 2 months, but then the gamer in me came out, I took advantage of my mothers sickness, and my step fathers lack of concern for anything I do. I lied about doing school, I would play Call of Duty Modern Warfare 2 several hours a day, severely addicted to it Im talking 5- 10 hours a day. Then I moved onto a game called World of Warcraft, this game is EXTREMELY addictive, some days I would seriously just sit at my computer playing all day, I recently quit playing it about 2 weeks ago actually, it keeps track of all the time you played the game. I have logged over 100 days played time on that game, played time meaning you actually have to be playing not just sitting there, so basically I played it like it was my job for 2 years Pretty sad right, Im done with that game now, I have wasted the last 2 years of my life and I want to be somebody, I know that if I keep playing games all day I WILL have a bad life, I need to think about my future.
Now you know why I have not done my school, will my mom get in trouble for this, will I get in trouble for it? I was a straight A student at my old brick and mortar school, now Im basically a drop out if I don't step it up. As of right now I am at the beginning of the 2nd semester of 9th grade. I just want to go back to school because right now I have NO social life whatsoever, I have good friends that want me to come back, I have been lying to them about doing my school and telling them I will be coming back for my junior year. I do want to go back but I just don't know how that would be possible. I tell myself that I will start working on my school, but I never do. At this point my mom has known I haven't been doing school for basically the year and a half I haven't been doing it. She has worked so hard for me and I don't want to disappoint her by not even finishing 9th grade. Ever since she had me and my older sister has been 100% focused on her kids, she loves us more than anything. Some kids that live in much worse conditions than me manage to finish college. What is my problem? Why am I so damn lazy? I want to be somebody but the best I ever do is think for hours crying and stressing about my school, mom and sister instead of actually doing anything. Also the only things I really enjoy or video games and basketball, those 2 things will not get me a job or a future so I worry that I won't enjoy my life no matter how hard I work.
I don't really have a specific question I just want some peoples opinions on my self inflicted miserable life. Im a 16 year old boy and lost, please help.Sweetie, I hope your mom's health improves.
Look, you have not ruined your life. You have made mistakes, you have learned from them. That's good.
Now it's time to stop letting yourself get away with things, stop crying about them; inflicting more misery on yourself is not going to help you. You have to nosedive back in and get started... it will be hard but once you do you'll feel better and things will turn around.
You are young; you can turn things around.
First thing to check is that you are not in non-compliance in your state; every state has it's own laws you have to follow. If you were supposed to have been handing in paperwork or getting tests done, and haven't, you could be in non-compliance. Believe me, you want to contact them before they come to you. Your mom can talk to them about her illness and how things fell behind and ask what needs to be done to get you back in good standing.
If your state doesn't require such things, then it's all just up to you. Make yourself a reasonable schedule... ask your family (mom & sis) to check on you to make sure you are keeping up. Get rid of games and gadgets that tempt you.
Also... get out every day. Play basketball, or blow off steam with a walk. Sunlight and fresh air can do wonders for the mood, and adrenalin is a natural mood enhancer. Don't get so caught up in catching up that you bury yourself and depress yourself, which will just make it harder to get up and keep going.
Our son, too, loved Worlds of Warcraft... and even fell in love with a girl he met there.
He learned, while playing the game, that he loved the economics of it: he enjoyed the buying and selling of items to further the ends of whatever "mission" he was involved doing. He learned to make friends all over the world.
He started community college at about your age, and got some business classes under his belt. He then took those units and transferred to the University of Hawaii, where he majored and graduated with a degree in Economics. He got out just in time to understand why he couldn't find a very good job! He's now sort of my Finance Guy: he does all the Quickbooks stuff, making sure we track our business expenses and that the advertisers get billed. He has also learned to do payroll on ADP online. In other words, playing lots of WoW hasn't hurt him at all! It has inspired him to learn to run a small business.
So do some Kahn Academy to get caught up in math. Apply this summer to a community college...go talk to them about "dual enrollment," which means being enrolled in high school and college at the same time. You'll get high school credits for the "remedial" classes you take, and college credit for those at college level.
The world is changing fast. In 1989 when I started "playing" on AOL, everyone thought I was wasting my time. But I learned how to build online communities. At the time, no one thought that was a skill worth having. Now I make a decent living doing just that, and my husband and son work for me, too! It has become a well-paying skill to know how to organize people all over the world toward some common goal.
I also got involved with the education group at NASA when they had a workshop here between themselves, game designers and educators. They knew that games were going to be THE way to train young people to have the sort of skills to colonize the moon or Mars. So think about it: what skills did you master in your 100 days of playing time? There is more advanced math in WoW than meets the eye!
What roles did you enjoy and play well? What roles in real life are there that are similar? There was something about the game that made your brain happy and engaged - what was it? Now you are just feeling guilty about it. (Been there. Done that.) You could have a life like those investigators on NCIS with all those fancy computer simulators! Someone has got to do it!
Me, I get to review all the "hottest" new online education sites, often before they are fully released. I get to talk with those looking into the future of education, and you know, it looks an awful lot like WoW!
Ann Zeise
A to Z Home's Cool Inc.
http://homeschooling.gomilpitas.com/
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